A Snippet Of Conversation

The family went out to dinner tonight. We went to Wing’s to be exact. I love Wing’s. We had a great time, got our bellies full, and enjoyed our time together.

Towards the end of the meal, our conversation led The Gent to start talking about some martial art movie starring Bruce Lee and in the movie Bruce Lee has to fight Kareem Abdul-Jabbar. How our meal time conversation led us to this family dialogue I’ll never know. I think what reminded The Gent of this 1978 martial arts film was something about The Boy telling us a story while imitating an Asian accent (don’t ask), and at the table next to us was seated an extremely tall man.

Anyway, that is how it started…..

The Gent: “You know, that’s funny, I was just reminded about a Bruce Lee movie with Kareem Abdul-Jabbar. Bruce Lee had to go up several levels of this house and on each level he encountered someone he had to fight in order to keep moving up. Well at one of these levels was Kareem Abdul Jabbar, he had to fight him.”

Then The Girl pipes in with before The Gent was able to finish his thought with, “Hey, that happened on SpongeBob the other day. Yeah, SpongeBob was trapped at the top of this building and Sandy had to fight everyone to get him out. You know, Sandy knows martial arts.”

… pause here for a second or two while we exchanged blank stares and stunned silence …

Did I mention The Girl is 16 years old – yeah, old enough to drive a car.

And then I lose it, I can’t help myself, I start cracking up with laughter on my side of the table. The Gent leans into me and whispers, “Good gawd, she’s never leaving home is she?”

Here’s the scene of the movie:

Apparently Kareem Abdul-Jabbar really is a black belt.

I had to Google all the movie information but here is the title, I think, that The Gent is referring to; The Game of Death.

Seriously, The Girl needs to get a summer job.

Happy Tuesday ya’ll,

[rez-uh-loo-shuhn]

So for the past week I’ve been trying to determine my New Year’s Resolution(s).

Normally I am not one for making big huge resolutions, especially while ending one year and bringing in the New. I quit making New Year’s resolutions when I was a kid. I learned at a young age how easily I can disappoint myself.

But now that I’ve gotten older and time is running out, well, I think I have changed my mind about this whole resolution-making business.

Let’s take a look at the definition of the word “resolution” first, shall we?

From Dictionary.com the definition of “resolution” is below:

res·o·lu·tion   
[rez-uh-loo-shuhn]
–noun
1. a formal expression of opinion or intention made, usually after voting, by a formal organization, a legislature, a club, or other group (the many voices in my head). Compare concurrent resolution, joint resolution.
2. a resolve or determination: to make a firm resolution to do something.
3. the act of resolving or determining upon an action or course of action, method, procedure, etc.
4. the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.

But there was one more that I particular liked…

10. reduction to a simpler form; conversion.

A conversion! Simpler form! Now THAT is what I’m talking about here people.

I’ve had many things rolling around in my head the last few days. Mostly it is a reflection of lessons learned from 2010; how I want to take what I’ve learned and move forward in the New Year.

I’ll try to break them down here but most of them will run together and probably have the same meaning.

1. Be resolved (duh). Well when I say “be resolved” I mean make a decision and stick with it. I want to make up my mind, CONFIDENTLY, about whatever then move forward with goals and take action. But first I need to MAKE UP MY MIND WHAT IT IS I WANT. Well, that’s not fair, I DO know what I want, I just can’t make an immediate living from it. Not yet. Really, I just want to quit being wishy-washy (or what I used to call it, open minded, which is really not the case here. No, I’m just plain ole wishy-washy). Heh.

2. Move on. In this, I mean stop the madness with expecting certain people to change. They are not going to change. They will always be that way, you’ve given them time and time again to prove to you that they are a person of their word. They continue to fail you. Move on.

3. Quit caring. Stop worrying about what everyone else on God’s great earth is doing, thinking, or not doing. And certainly, stop caring what others may think of YOU. Because in reality, they are more than likely NOT EVEN thinking about you. 😉 You already know this Carol so stop it. (OK, why all of a sudden I am talking to myself on the blog is beyond me.)

Um, so the first three are really kind of the same thing. Let me try a little harder….

4. Stop saying, “I don’t know.” Because you DO know. Stop lying and saying you don’t. This is a cop-out. You say this phrase a lot. It’s time to get honest and say the truth out loud and stop hiding behind, “I don’t know.” It’s weird how you have the ability to actually say those words out loud while at the same time your brain is thinking something else entirely, you know, like with an opinion of your own, an original thought, a new idea, or perhaps even an actual answer. But you never say it out loud, you just cop-out with, “I don’t know.” Just weird.

5. Write.

6. No more excuses, not from you or from anyone else. If someone else wants to give you an excuse then so be it, but don’t sit and stew over it or hound them about it. Refer to resolution #2 on this one. Now, for yourself, young lady, stop making excuses. You know a lot of people who are achieving their dreams that have a ton of other obligations going on in their life, and yet they are successfully moving forward. No more excuses.

7. Stop comparing yourself to others. You know the old saying, “Stop comparing your insides to everyone else’s outsides.” Good grief woman, when are you EVER GOING TO LEARN THIS ONE? I’m not even going to say anymore, you know what to do.

8. Focus. Commit. This one really sounds a lot like resolution #1 – but let’s elaborate. First of all, you may want to cut down on some of your “activities” – stop signing yourself up for so much. Let’s scale back, focus on a few and do them well. Commit to a few and see them through. You know which ones. Stop saying, “You don’t know.”

9. Keep quiet. Stop telling everyone what you want to do, what you are doing, bragging, what you are NOT doing, giving them excuses, blaming, and blah blah blah. Just keep to yourself, YOU KNOW what you want, you don’t need to tell someone else about it over and over and over again. Just do it. I know it’s difficult but perhaps you need to try to practice a little humility.

10. Be positive. OK, I have to give you a little credit on this one, you have gotten a lot better with trying to be (and stay) positive. Keep up the good work and continue on.

11. Last but not least, please stop talking to yourself on the blog.